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Should you tell the kids you’re getting divorced?

On Behalf of | May 22, 2023 | Divorce

Divorce is a difficult decision for any couple to make. When children are involved, it can be even more challenging. Parents often wonder if they should tell their kids about the divorce or shield them from the news. While it may seem easier to keep the information from your kids, being honest and open with them about your divorce can actually be beneficial.

As a parent, this can be one of the most difficult conversations you may ever have with your children. But despite it being a painful experience, it is important to remember that children have a right to know what is happening.

Honesty is the best policy

First and foremost, telling your kids when you’re divorcing is essential because honesty is the best policy. Children are very perceptive and can often sense something wrong, even if they do not fully understand what is happening. Being transparent about what is happening can help prevent them from feeling lied to or deceived later in life.

Your kids deserve time to process this new change

Another reason why it is important to tell your kids when you’re divorcing is because it gives them time to prepare for the changes that are coming. Divorce can be a major upheaval in a child’s life, and they may need time to adjust to the idea of living in two different households, splitting time between parents and other changes that come with the situation.

Communicating will make the kids feel included 

It is also important to include your kids in the divorce process as much as possible. This means keeping them informed about what is happening, answering their questions openly and involving them in decisions that affect their lives. This can make them feel valued and heard and help mitigate some of the negative effects of divorce on children.

Telling your kids about your divorce is an essential step in helping them adjust to the changes that will be coming. While it may be difficult, honesty with your kids can help build trust, reduce anxiety and fear and allow for open communication. Remember to choose the right time, emphasize that it’s not their fault and reassure them that you’ll always be there for them.