Traditionally, most marriages are dissolved by the court where the different aspects of the divorce are litigated. However, this does not have to be your first choice, especially if you share children.
A collaborative divorce is a solution-centered approach that allows the parties to agree on the terms of the divorce without involving the court. This type of divorce focuses on getting the couple to work together to achieve the best outcome for everyone involved, including their children. Since child custody issues, parenting plans and issues of support are often hot topics in any marital split, this is a good way to reduce hostility between parents who will have to work with each other for years to come.
The benefits of collaborative divorce to the children
Besides its immense benefits to the divorcing parties, this type of divorce also offers several benefits to the children. Here are two of them:
Reducing emotional trauma
Divorce can greatly impact children’s mental well-being. Specifically, a highly-public, hard-fought divorce can leave the kids with severe psychological trauma. When caught in the middle of a contentious divorce, it is not uncommon for children to develop depression, anger and anxiety. The collaborative process is private and stresses cooperation.
Provide assurance and stability
Divorce comes with several changes, and one of these involves your children’s living arrangements. A collaborative divorce allows you and your soon-to-be-ex to forge a united front thus ensuring that the children’s stability is guaranteed during and after the divorce. You can each discuss your future parenting goals and concerns and come to some agreements before these issues cause trouble.
Divorce is generally a difficult undertaking. Fortunately, a collaborative divorce can help you dissolve your marriage without hurting your kids.