Many people see the value in a collaborative divorce. It can be faster and less stressful to cooperate with your spouse rather than fighting with them over every issue from your marriage. However, if the two of you are currently at odds with one another, you may think it is unrealistic to try to cooperate with them.
You may not be able to be in the same room with them without getting into a heated argument. Thankfully for those who would appreciate the control and privacy that collaborative divorce affords them, it is not necessary to directly talk with your spouse to pursue a collaborative divorce.
Your attorneys can provide a buffer
Collaborative divorce requires that you cooperate with your spouse, but you don’t have to sit down at a meeting with them to achieve your goals. Instead of having meetings with them, you can communicate with them through your attorney to reach property division, custody and other settlements.
When your lawyer understands your circumstances and your priorities, they can manage the process of communicating with your spouse’s attorney. The two of you may not have to talk with one another at all, as your lawyers can manage the negotiations and then arrange for both of you to sign the resulting agreement.
Even if you and your soon-to-be-ex are not currently on good terms with each other, collaborative divorce can still be a solution that works for the two of you. Learning more about the process of collaborative divorce can help you determine if it is a viable option for your upcoming divorce.